Godly Keys for a Successful and Healthy Marriage
Godly Keys for a Successful and Healthy Marriage: Every successful godly marriage requires patience, peace and understanding. What are the keys on having a successful and godly marriage? Seat tight and read on.
Every marriage begins with high hopes and prayer of blessing. But what makes a godly marriage successful. What are the biblical steps to make a marriage successful as a Christian couple.
With careful study and observation, I have discovered some fundamental principles for a successful marriage. I would list 8 of them.
Love is beyond the euphoria of falling in love. It’s a deliberate decision to love your partner. Love is a conscious decision to be committed to another person. It is beyond what the media portrays-those fleeting emotion and passion in movies and novels. Those emotion comes and go. It can’t stand the test of time but true love, true decision to be committed to your partner last forever and it’s the foundation of every healthy marriage.
Marriage is a deliberate decision to be committed to your partner during the storm and the rain. When things are good, pleasant or bad. True commitment is tested when things are bad or not going well. Remaining committed through every trial is the purest display of love.
2. Sexual Faithfulness.
Being sexually faithful in marriage goes beyond sexual intercourse outside the matrimony. It involves more than just our bodies. It a total of our thoughts, our looks, heart, mind and soul. Our thoughts should be devoted to only fantasize about our partner and not another person. If we fail in this, then sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. When we begin to offer moments of emotional intimacies to someone else, we start sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our home.
Guard your heart, guard your thought. Make it a duty to guard your sexuality daily and devote it entirely to your spouse. Sexual faithfulness requires a lot of self-discipline and constant awareness of the consequences of falling. Avoid things that tempt your eyes, body and heart to compromise your sexual faithfulness.
We all have weaknesses within us and relationships is indeed the perfect means of revealing these faults faster than anything you can think of. An imperative factor in the building block of a healthy marriage is the capability to accept your perfections. To admit that you will make mistakes once in a while, and to ask for forgiveness. Displaying an attitude of pride and superiority in a relationship will in due time, bring resentment.
If you battle other this, pick a pen and write down three aspect you know your partner do better than you—that simple exercise would assist you stay humble.
The fact that no one is perfect, makes patience and forgiveness highly required in order to make a marriage relationship successful. Successful marriage partners displays an unquenchable expression of patience and forgiveness to their partner. They whole heartedly accept their own faults and do not require perfection from their mate. They do not hold their partner hostage with errors from the past.
They forgive and do not look for occasion to get revenge when mistakes occur. Holding onto a past hurt and mistake from your partner, will bring resentment with time. Learn to forgive him or her.
No relationships can work without time investment. It has never have and never will happen. Every successful relationship is a product of intentional, quality time together. And quality time can’t be separated from quantity time.
The most intimate and deep relationship you should have should be with your partner and this is built on quality time together. As much as possible, have time each day for your spouse. And a date-night once in a while would do real good.
6. Honesty and Trust.
Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything in a successful marriage. But unlike most of the other essentials on this list, trust takes time. You can become selfless, committed, or patient in a moment, but trust always takes time. Trust is only built after weeks, months, and years of being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. It takes time, so start now—and if you need to rebuild trust in your relationship, you’ll need to work even harder.
Healthy marriage partners communicate as much as possible. They certainly discuss kids’ schedules, grocery lists, and utility bills. But they don’t stop there. They also communicate hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. They don’t just discuss the changes that are taking place in the kid’s life, they also discuss the changes that are taking place in their own hearts and souls.
This essential key cannot be overlooked because honest, forthright communication becomes the foundation for so many other things on this list: commitment, patience, and trust—just to name a few.
Although it will never show up on any survey, more marriages are broken up by selfishness than any other reason. Surveys blame it on finances, lack of commitment, infidelity, or incompatibility, but the root cause for most of these reasons is selfishness. A selfish person is committed only to himself or herself, shows little patience, and never learns how to be a successful spouse. Give your hopes, dreams, and life to your partner. And begin to live life together.
This is a simple call to value our marriages, treat them with great care, and invest in them daily.
Accomplishing the marriage advice listed above will always require nearly every bit of yourself—but it so worth it if you want to learn how to have a happy marriage.