REASONS MOST CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES FAIL
REASONS MOST CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES FAIL>Today, more than ever, marriages are under attack. We wholeheartedly believe that if you and your partner can use these few guidelines below as a starting point to do a “health check” in your marriage it can protect you from a lot of heartaches. We urge you to work through all the points together, communicating with honesty about how well your relationship is doing in each area. Put down the things that you are doing well as well as the things you need to work on. Make it important to work on the items on the list until they have drastically improved. Do not set a time limit on “when” the improvements will occur, instead dedicate your hearts and time to working on them a little at a time.
Keeping God and Marriage Unconnected
If your Christianity is made up of going to church an hour (or more) each week, prayer before meals, and a few Bible verses occasionally, your marriage is not likely to be any distinguishable than that of a non-believer. “God in a box” will never help your marriage.
Bringing God into your marriage entails praying for and with your partner, but that’s only a very small beginning. You must invite God to deal with every characteristic of you and your relationship; I mean your anger, your busyness, your intimacy, how you treat your partner, your communication, your time, your money, your plans for the future.
When You Don’t Pray Together
Praying together is a lordly part of a healthy marriage because it brings you together as you raise your joys and fears to God. Seeking His guidance on those things with which you are struggling together will assist you to grow as well as find ways to support one another. There is so much power in agreement in prayer and in your marriage.
Guilt, Shame, and Blame
Marriage is the coalition of two sinners, two broken people. Thankfully the message of the gospel is that you do not have to stay there! God has guaranteed you – and your partner – a way out. But the enemy is only too eager to take your own failings as well as your partner’s failings and use them to beat you up, separate you from your spouse, and destroy your relationship.
You will make errors. Your partner will make errors. You will hurt one another. Focusing on the errors and the wounds will doom your marriage to failure. The healthy alternative is to quickly admit what is wrong but then focus on the solution. Deal with it, do whatever it takes to grow and transform, and then move on.
When You Don’t Listen to Each Other
Actively listening to your partner…really hearing what he/she is saying, is important to a loving relationship. By taking the time to harken to each other, you are showing that you appraise the other’s ideas and that you are there to support him/her.
When You Don’t Mind About The strength of the marriage covenant
The lawful marital agreement made between a husband and wife is a man-made contract that is difficult to uphold during difficult times. On the other hand, the covenant or agreement that you and your partner made before God should be easier to uphold during difficult times because He is always faithful to His Word.
When You are Both Too Self-Centered
When life gets crazy, it’s manageable to become focused on yourself: your responsibilities, your concerns, your goals. Nevertheless, many of us don’t consciously become inwardly focused, we end up thinking only about ourselves. This pattern is detrimental to your relationship, as it causes you to stop thinking about the needs of your spouse.
When you find yourself thinking about your busy day, week, etc., make sure that you take time to talk with your partner about his/hers as well.
When You Don’t Set Goals with Each Other
Setting goals with your partner assure that you are on the same page and heading in the same direction. By talking on a normal basis about the things that you hope to achieve as a couple or family and stopping to discuss your betterment to meeting those goals, you make sure that you are moving forward together. When goals are not set, then it becomes simple for you both to be working from your own agendas. Separation is never a good thing in marriage. make sure to be effectively setting and evaluating goals together so you can avoid the trap of division.
When You Don’t Communicate Effectively with One Another
Communication is another vital part of a strong marriage. It’s crucial that you talk about anything that concerns you both: finances, the kids, ways that you are hoping to grow and transformations that you plan to make. By not keeping your partner in the loop, it’s simple for misunderstanding and hurt to take over as he/she may feel that you don’t value his/her thoughts.
When You Have Lost the Romance
Romance is what, initially brought you and your partner together and it is a vital part of keeping your marriage strong. Making time for dates and intimacy will assist to keep your marriage on the right part. Without romance, you and your partner will lose the spark that brought you together in the first place.
When You Don’t Make Each Other a Top Priority
We all have a lot of things on the to-do list: work, family, volunteering, etc. If you do not set your primacy and be sure that the choices that you make support those things that you see as most vital, then you may find at the end of the day that your marriage is on the rocks. Remember that your partner should be a top priority and that your days’ work should reflect continuous effort to show him/her how much he/she matters to you.
When You Don’t Grow Together
Each time we grow; our experiences shape the people that we really are. When you aren’t working together and growing together, it opens the door to a lot of opportunities to grow apart. By making a collective effort to grow as a couple through reading and praying together, you are ensuring that your relationship continues to excel.
Prayer Is Good But Don’t Use Prayer Where You Should Use Wisdom.
Always remember that religious activities will not manage your home, it is practicality that does.
Stay blessed always📍